Part of the healing process: You cried your eyes out whilst they spoke to other people.

More or less of you who have come to this post are either heart broken or curious but i’ll go with the latter. Most of us will go through heart break some time in our lives especially if its to do with one of these situations friends with benefit, marriage, boyfriend, girlfriend you name it; eventually one of the parties will start mingling straight after a split and try to play the field again whilst the other will reminisce on the memories you both once shared and indulge in junk food and cry their eyes out, that’s not always the case but its a common thing to do after a break up.

To continue the common things that an individual may do after a break up (the one who is sorrowful) is stalking. That’s correct a lot of heart broken souls will want know what their ex is up to in life, with the world continually advancing in technology, it has made it easier for us to find these answers not only by talking to a friend of a friend but via social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, twitter and so many more. Stalking is usually the most painful part in the aftermath, why? well let me list a few things:

• You will see them like photos of another attractive female/male
• You will see them follow other pretty girls/guys
• You will see the compliments and cute emoji’s they post under someones picture
• You will see them post stories of them going out and enjoying themselves or even spending time with someone in your place.

To sum up the list above you will see that he/she is doing completely fine without you, almost like you never existed. That will hurt the most and you’ll cry for days or even months thinking you weren’t good enough. Feel like your whole world is crumbling right? well this blog is to let you know that you are on the right path of healing your heart. Cry it out till you can no longer shed a tear. The release of those emotions will later benefit you as it will become exhausting how long will you cry for? the next phase is anger and using that as motivation to better yourself for the future options that may come your way.

Funny thing is it works different for everyone but from experience its usually the sad one that has the last laugh. By the time you’re over it its the other persons turn to feel sad and come back wanting to reconcile. Even if you did make up with your person you will be emotionally stronger because their “wrong” behaviour towards you will no longer matter. You will move forward regardless with or without them. Eventually their opinion will no longer be of significance and who knows you could end up meeting new companionship that will understand your life more than they ever did.

So don’t hold back the tears, let it flow and find yourself too. As difficult/scary as it may seem, start talking to others more. Focus on your health & well being…it will all be worth it in the end. Please share your stories below and let me know which end of the situation you have been in. Thanks for reading.