I don’t know who needs to hear this but sometimes in life you will come across people who will be ungrateful for your kindness, who won’t acknowledge your loving actions towards them and all together will undermine your passions, opinions and values. Its important that we recognise and accept these behaviours so we can move forward not with them but with ourselves. Keep reading till the end where i sum up why accepting someones behaviours can be a beneficial impact.
Ever noticed that you could be so kind to an individual, always wanting the best for them, going above and beyond for them….remembering their birthdays, buying a present that took so much effort to choose because you wanted it to be perfect…travelling to see them so they wouldn’t have to drive a long way to see you etc (i could go on all day but you get the gist of it) just to be shown no appreciation whatsoever and to be shut down completely? If you have its so important to know that you shouldn’t feel bad for trying. Don’t let that one person kill your vibe because not everyone is like this.
Also ever been in a situation where an individual/group chose someone else over you. Did this individual lie to you about someone else? or despite your efforts they still didn’t choose you and you were never enough for them. You need to understand that sometimes an individual is weak because of their circumstances, they could choose someone else because of their family or friends or they could just outright be a selfish person who never cared in the first place. It doesn’t matter! Its not that you weren’t good enough…they were pleasing others, very shallow and thinking about status. Qualities which in the long term will never work.
This could go for a work opportunity also you may not have had all the skills but your determination to succeed and hard work was dismissed no matter how much you showed your dedication and commitment to the role. Don’t feel undermined your time will come; people in the modern day corporate world are ruthless they want a quicker and easier way of making profits by hiring the more experienced but don’t let that stop you your door will open soon.
The sooner you accept these behaviours from these individuals/groups and accept that they will not change; the easier it will be to find a way to move onwards and upwards. You don’t have to cut them from your life.. you can learn from them and aspire to be something way different than their personalities. Use the situations as a reason to motivate you to be even greater than you are. Learn to let go of that voice in your head that likes to see the good in everyone because unfortunately there are natural ass-holes out there, i’m not saying they are bad people but they are just not for you at this moment in time. The sooner you come to terms with these selfless actions the more smarter you become in taking control of your own life.
From personal experience its taken me a long while to understand (trying rather) why people are so selfless regardless of knowing your heart is in the right place. This lock-down really made me reflect on things and it was a shock to the system at how much I had endured because I was so passionate about fulfilling other needs other than my own. With that being said take a good look at the types relationships in your life and comment below what your situations are maybe there are friendships or individuals that you need to let go of or maybe the other way round; relationships you need to stop taking for granted and work on.
